Thread: Was Another Party Invite, then morphed into Potluck....

On Sat 14 Jun 2008 08:12:12p, Virginia Tadrzynski told us...

> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of time.
> They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad hints
> about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting that
> they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up housekeeping
> some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize the occassion
> with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into 'donating' to a
> wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and relieved in-laws), so I
> got to thinking......what DO you give someone who has collected enough
> marital detris to hold their own yardsale of overflows.........I got it,
> they gotta eat. I went to the local grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at)
> and purchased a gift card in the amount I would have paid for a
> respectible wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,
> but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't
> have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills
> paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
> get started?
> -ginny
>
>
>

Haven't done it, but it's a great idea.

--
Wayne Boatwright
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Saturday, 06(VI)/14(XIV)/08(MMVIII)
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Today is: Flag Day
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Cats must pee down the back of the
television, causing its innards to
short out.
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On Sat 14 Jun 2008 08:12:12p, Virginia Tadrzynski told us...

> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of time.
> They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad hints
> about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting that
> they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up housekeeping
> some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize the occassion
> with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into 'donating' to a
> wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and relieved in-laws), so I
> got to thinking......what DO you give someone who has collected enough
> marital detris to hold their own yardsale of overflows.........I got it,
> they gotta eat. I went to the local grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at)
> and purchased a gift card in the amount I would have paid for a
> respectible wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,
> but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't
> have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills
> paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
> get started?
> -ginny
>
>
>

Haven't done it, but it's a great idea.

--
Wayne Boatwright
-------------------------------------------
Saturday, 06(VI)/14(XIV)/08(MMVIII)
-------------------------------------------
Today is: Flag Day
-------------------------------------------
Cats must pee down the back of the
television, causing its innards to
short out.
-------------------------------------------

"Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]>
news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking

> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of
> time. They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad
> hints about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting
> that they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up
> housekeeping some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize
> the occassion with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into
> 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and
> relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what DO you give someone
> who has collected enough marital detris to hold their own yardsale of
> overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the local
> grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,
> but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't
> have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills
> paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
> get started?

I see nothing wrong with it even though it is quite a bit different. I
don't see any difference between that and my writing a check. I know what
we're giving everyone for Xmas this year, we're buying everyone BP
gasoline cards. It's the perfect gift for someone that has everything
IMO.

Michael


--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

"Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]>
news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking

> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of
> time. They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad
> hints about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting
> that they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up
> housekeeping some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize
> the occassion with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into
> 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and
> relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what DO you give someone
> who has collected enough marital detris to hold their own yardsale of
> overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the local
> grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,
> but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't
> have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills
> paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
> get started?

I see nothing wrong with it even though it is quite a bit different. I
don't see any difference between that and my writing a check. I know what
we're giving everyone for Xmas this year, we're buying everyone BP
gasoline cards. It's the perfect gift for someone that has everything
IMO.

Michael


--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

Michael "Dog3" wrote:
> "Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]>
> news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking
>
>> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
>> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of
>> time. They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad
>> hints about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting
>> that they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up
>> housekeeping some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize
>> the occassion with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into
>> 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and
>> relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what DO you give someone
>> who has collected enough marital detris to hold their own yardsale of
>> overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the local
>> grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
>> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>>
>> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,
>> but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't
>> have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills
>> paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>>
>> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
>> get started?
>
> I see nothing wrong with it even though it is quite a bit different. I
> don't see any difference between that and my writing a check. I know what
> we're giving everyone for Xmas this year, we're buying everyone BP
> gasoline cards. It's the perfect gift for someone that has everything
> IMO.
>
> Michael
>
>
No BP stations down here Michael, could you make it ExxonMobil? <VBG>

Michael "Dog3" wrote:
> "Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]>
> news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking
>
>> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
>> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of
>> time. They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad
>> hints about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting
>> that they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up
>> housekeeping some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize
>> the occassion with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into
>> 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and
>> relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what DO you give someone
>> who has collected enough marital detris to hold their own yardsale of
>> overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the local
>> grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
>> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>>
>> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,
>> but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't
>> have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills
>> paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>>
>> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
>> get started?
>
> I see nothing wrong with it even though it is quite a bit different. I
> don't see any difference between that and my writing a check. I know what
> we're giving everyone for Xmas this year, we're buying everyone BP
> gasoline cards. It's the perfect gift for someone that has everything
> IMO.
>
> Michael
>
>
No BP stations down here Michael, could you make it ExxonMobil? <VBG>

George Shirley <[email protected]>
news:9c85k.5427$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking

> No BP stations down here Michael, could you make it ExxonMobil? <VBG>

We're boycotting ExxonMobil right now. Have you any QTs

Michael



--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

George Shirley <[email protected]>
news:9c85k.5427$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking

> No BP stations down here Michael, could you make it ExxonMobil? <VBG>

We're boycotting ExxonMobil right now. Have you any QTs

Michael



--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

Virginia Tadrzynski wrote:
> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of time.
> They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad hints about
> what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting that they should
> have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up housekeeping some ten years
> earlier, I did however want to recognize the occassion with a gift. The
> house was furnished and I wasn't into 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was
> suggested by the happy and relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what
> DO you give someone who has collected enough marital detris to hold their
> own yardsale of overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the
> local grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift, but
> the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't have to
> spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills paying for
> wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to get
> started?
> -ginny
>
Does nothing for me.
I like traditional gifts that the couple can look at 20 years later and
recall fondly the giver, as well as the event. Almost as bad (IMO) as
silk flowers instead of real. Somethings, or events, are just supposed
to be perfect. Not imitations of perfect.
As for gifts-Nothing disposable. It makes me feel like the marriage is
temporary too. I often would give better gifts than the couple register
for when they register. Sometimes it is a dilemma to decide to give them
4 of the cheap, ugly wine glasses they registered for at Walmart, or 4
gorgeous crystal goblets which are much nicer??
Also, anyone who's been shacking up that long won't get a big ticket
item from me. They milked that cow already, so to speak?

Virginia Tadrzynski wrote:
> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of time.
> They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad hints about
> what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting that they should
> have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up housekeeping some ten years
> earlier, I did however want to recognize the occassion with a gift. The
> house was furnished and I wasn't into 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was
> suggested by the happy and relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what
> DO you give someone who has collected enough marital detris to hold their
> own yardsale of overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the
> local grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift, but
> the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money they didn't have to
> spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills paying for
> wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to get
> started?
> -ginny
>
Does nothing for me.
I like traditional gifts that the couple can look at 20 years later and
recall fondly the giver, as well as the event. Almost as bad (IMO) as
silk flowers instead of real. Somethings, or events, are just supposed
to be perfect. Not imitations of perfect.
As for gifts-Nothing disposable. It makes me feel like the marriage is
temporary too. I often would give better gifts than the couple register
for when they register. Sometimes it is a dilemma to decide to give them
4 of the cheap, ugly wine glasses they registered for at Walmart, or 4
gorgeous crystal goblets which are much nicer??
Also, anyone who's been shacking up that long won't get a big ticket
item from me. They milked that cow already, so to speak?

Michael "Dog3" wrote:
> George Shirley <[email protected]>
> news:9c85k.5427$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking
>
>> No BP stations down here Michael, could you make it ExxonMobil? <VBG>
>
> We're boycotting ExxonMobil right now. Have you any QTs
>
> Michael
>
>
>
I'm a Mobil retiree, I don't boycott the company that feeds me. What is
a QT? Actually I mostly buy my gas at Kroger Fuel, get a ten cent per
gallon discount.

Michael "Dog3" wrote:
> George Shirley <[email protected]>
> news:9c85k.5427$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking
>
>> No BP stations down here Michael, could you make it ExxonMobil? <VBG>
>
> We're boycotting ExxonMobil right now. Have you any QTs
>
> Michael
>
>
>
I'm a Mobil retiree, I don't boycott the company that feeds me. What is
a QT? Actually I mostly buy my gas at Kroger Fuel, get a ten cent per
gallon discount.

Michael "Dog3" wrote:
> "Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]>
> news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking
>
>> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to
>> a wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of
>> time. They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad
>> hints about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting
>> that they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up
>> housekeeping some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize
>> the occassion with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into
>> 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and
>> relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what DO you give someone
>> who has collected enough marital detris to hold their own yardsale of
>> overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the local
>> grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
>> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>>
>> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the
>> gift, but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money
>> they didn't have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched
>> to the gills paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant
>> gifts, etc.'
>>
>> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
>> get started?
>
> I see nothing wrong with it even though it is quite a bit different. I
> don't see any difference between that and my writing a check. I know
> what we're giving everyone for Xmas this year, we're buying everyone
> BP gasoline cards. It's the perfect gift for someone that has
> everything IMO.
>
> Michael

I love getting gas cards and food cards. It's something everyone can use.

kili

Michael "Dog3" wrote:
> "Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]>
> news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]: in rec.food.cooking
>
>> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to
>> a wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of
>> time. They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad
>> hints about what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting
>> that they should have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up
>> housekeeping some ten years earlier, I did however want to recognize
>> the occassion with a gift. The house was furnished and I wasn't into
>> 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was suggested by the happy and
>> relieved in-laws), so I got to thinking......what DO you give someone
>> who has collected enough marital detris to hold their own yardsale of
>> overflows.........I got it, they gotta eat. I went to the local
>> grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and purchased a gift card in the
>> amount I would have paid for a respectible wedding present.
>>
>> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the
>> gift, but the couple was enthralled. I was told 'this was money
>> they didn't have to spend to buy groceries when they were stretched
>> to the gills paying for wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant
>> gifts, etc.'
>>
>> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to
>> get started?
>
> I see nothing wrong with it even though it is quite a bit different. I
> don't see any difference between that and my writing a check. I know
> what we're giving everyone for Xmas this year, we're buying everyone
> BP gasoline cards. It's the perfect gift for someone that has
> everything IMO.
>
> Michael

I love getting gas cards and food cards. It's something everyone can use.

kili

George Shirley <[email protected]> news:cH85k.5319$3F5.261
@bignews2.bellsouth.net: in rec.food.cooking

> I'm a Mobil retiree, I don't boycott the company that feeds me. What is
> a QT? Actually I mostly buy my gas at Kroger Fuel, get a ten cent per
> gallon discount.

QT is a Quik Trip (sp). They litter nearly every corner here in St. Louis.
Not really but there are a lot of them. I would assume it is a national
chain although I might be mistaken about that.

Michael





--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

George Shirley <[email protected]> news:cH85k.5319$3F5.261
@bignews2.bellsouth.net: in rec.food.cooking

> I'm a Mobil retiree, I don't boycott the company that feeds me. What is
> a QT? Actually I mostly buy my gas at Kroger Fuel, get a ten cent per
> gallon discount.

QT is a Quik Trip (sp). They litter nearly every corner here in St. Louis.
Not really but there are a lot of them. I would assume it is a national
chain although I might be mistaken about that.

Michael





--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

Goomba <[email protected]> news:[email protected]:
in rec.food.cooking

> Does nothing for me.
> I like traditional gifts that the couple can look at 20 years later
> and recall fondly the giver, as well as the event.

I do this for people that I care a great deal about, but not just for
weddings. For my neice's high school graduation we ordered a crystal
clock from Waterford Ireland. It took almost a year to get here and
another 2 months to get the inscription engraved on it. It was well
worth the time and expense. She absolutely went crazy over it and it's a
gift that will remind her of that landmark event for the rest of her
life.

<scissored for space>

> Also, anyone who's been shacking up that long won't get a big ticket
> item from me. They milked that cow already, so to speak?

I don't care if they've been sleeping and/or living together for decades.
If the couple is close to me I'll give them a decent gift. Seems like
crystal picture frames are always appreciated, regardless of how long a
couple has been together.

Michael




--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

Goomba <[email protected]> news:[email protected]:
in rec.food.cooking

> Does nothing for me.
> I like traditional gifts that the couple can look at 20 years later
> and recall fondly the giver, as well as the event.

I do this for people that I care a great deal about, but not just for
weddings. For my neice's high school graduation we ordered a crystal
clock from Waterford Ireland. It took almost a year to get here and
another 2 months to get the inscription engraved on it. It was well
worth the time and expense. She absolutely went crazy over it and it's a
gift that will remind her of that landmark event for the rest of her
life.

<scissored for space>

> Also, anyone who's been shacking up that long won't get a big ticket
> item from me. They milked that cow already, so to speak?

I don't care if they've been sleeping and/or living together for decades.
If the couple is close to me I'll give them a decent gift. Seems like
crystal picture frames are always appreciated, regardless of how long a
couple has been together.

Michael




--
"I eat vegetarians for breakfast"
~unknown but seen on a bumper sticker

To email - michael at lonergan dot us dot com

"Virginia Tadrzynski" <[email protected]> wrote in message
news:48548888$0$13352$[email protected]..
> Question for you......have any of you done this? I was invited to a
> wedding where the couple had been shacking for a lengthy period of time.
> They did the whole registry thingy and relatives dropped broad hints about
> what was 'needed' to set up housekeeping. After snorting that they should
> have done this when the ACTUALLY did set up housekeeping some ten years
> earlier, I did however want to recognize the occassion with a gift. The
> house was furnished and I wasn't into 'donating' to a wedding trip (as was
> suggested by the happy and relieved in-laws), so I got to
> thinking......what DO you give someone who has collected enough marital
> detris to hold their own yardsale of overflows.........I got it, they
> gotta eat. I went to the local grocer (one I KNEW they shopped at) and
> purchased a gift card in the amount I would have paid for a respectible
> wedding present.
>
> I was later informed that the families were a bit put off by the gift,

Who cares .. if they were than they should have NEVER told you ... that is
worse form than giving a 'bad' gift.

but
> the couple was enthralled.

That is what matters. Sounds like that family doesn't have enough problems.


I was told 'this was money they didn't have to
> spend to buy groceries when they were stretched to the gills paying for
> wedding, reception, honeymoon, attendant gifts, etc.'
>
> So, have any of you done this? Sound like something we should try to get
> started?
> -ginny
>
>