"Julie Bove" <[email protected]> wrote in message
>I don't really get this. Yes, once in a while I do a bad thing. Like when
>I ODed on the Swedish Fish. And before you decide to make nasty comments
>about that, and you know who you are, that was several years ago. I have
>learned that there are just certain things I can not bring into the house
>ever. And perhaps some things that if I do bring them into the house can
>only be purchased in small quantities. Anyway...
> Once again we have a family birthday celebration. For the last one, I was
> told that there would be fruit purchased for Angela. I think perhaps some
> people in the family thought that Angela wanted fruit because for her
> birthday I got her one of those edible arrangements. It actually wasn't
> really the fruit that she wanted but the special, pretty thing that most
> people probably never get. She didn't even eat much of the fruit. Just a
> few pieces. And I had tried to get one that didn't contain anything she
> couldn't eat but sadly there was pineapple on it.
> Anyway... For the last birthday, the family member told us that fruit had
> been purchased for Angela. It was described as a fruit platter. This
> upset Angela somewhat because almost always those fruit platters contain
> fruit that she loves but isn't on her diet. She is not allowed to have
> raisins, pineapple or watermelon. And she loves pineapple and watermelon
> which is what this fruit platter mostly was. So she was pretty unhappy to
> have to have that sitting right in front of her. She wasn't hungry and
> she didn't want any fruit. But she was pushed and pushed and pushed and
> she finally took two pieces of melon.
> So now this same family member said she wasn't going to have anything to
> do with the food for this birthday and that my brother and I would have to
> sort it out. He contacted me and asked me what we wanted to eat? I did
> ask my husband and Angela. Both said they wanted nothing. Fine. With us
> anyway. But not with this other family member. Currently we are all
> having dietary issues. So the way I see it, the rest of the family should
> be fine with it if we say that we do not want dessert. But no. We are
> being pushed and pushed and pushed. Well not me so much because I think
> by now they all know that I say that I do not want to eat dessert. I
> don't think they believe me in any way shape or form and they keep trying
> to tempt me with things but all that does is make me angry.
> So I was told to get something anyway. Seeing as how my husband's
> birthday is among what we are celebrating. And past experience has taught
> me that nobody in the family wants to take home any extra dessert,
> including us! Because if it is here, my husband will eat it. And he is
> trying not to eat that sort of stuff. So I told my brother that I would
> get something for him. And what I bought is a piece of something called
> "Two Person Cake". To me it looks like it would feed 4 or 6 but then I
> don't like cake. I also picked up a small lemon cake and a small pan of
> frosted brownies because I knew that the food pusher relative loves these
> things. She has since seen them and is very pleased about it. But that
> just wasn't good enough.
> Tonight she called and insisted that she was going to get some fruit for
> Angela. I said, no. Please do not do that. Angela does not want any
> fruit. We went shopping yesterday and again today and I asked her both
> times about the fruit. She did not want it. I don't blame her. Like me,
> she is just not hungry at about 2 hours after dinner and does not want to
> eat. Anyway... This person snapped at me over the phone and demanded,
> "Well then what DOES she want to eat?" And I said, "Nothing. I asked
> her. We both want nothing." Then she snapped at me in a very angry tone
> of voice, "Well! That's just no fun!" *sigh*
> I just don't know how to put an end to this and it would seem that I
> probably can not. One person who will be coming is thin. Really thin.
> As in, getting medical attention for it. The other is a fairly normal
> weight to perhaps slightly thin. Had to tell really because this person
> wears baggy clothes. But this person doesn't really like sweets, like me.
> And for some odd reason, people don't seem to get angry with him when he
> declines the sweets. I just really don't get that. But the others? All
> overweight to grossly obese. All either diabetic, pre-diabetic or at
> least have some sort of issue to where they should not be eating sweets.
> But as usual, they will not only eat them but eat a lot of them. And then
> they will complain because they did so.
> So I guess I just don't get where the fun part comes in. How is it fun to
> eat something that you know you should not eat? Especially when you are
> going to have pain or guilt or even in some cases, actual illness
> afterwards? I could see it I guess if they felt the need to have some
> sort of festive food and then everyone could take a fork and take a bite
> of it. That would actually make sense to me because not much harm would
> have been done. But that's not what they're going to do.
> I also don't understand why we are being so bad or wrong or whatever they
> think we are being by declining the food. It's not like the person who is
> taking offense actually cooked or baked the food. It's all purchased
> stuff. *sigh*
Just tell them that instead of all of that purchased stuff, like brownies,
two person cakes, lemon cakes, etc. you
will spend the money on your health insurance and everyone will be much